Coming in to a relationship, typically, both parties have their separate group of friends. However, it’s important to have mutual friends, more specifically–couples, who are in healthy relationships. The reasons below detail why it is so important to surround yourself with “good” couples.
- A good example. This is especially important when you are beginning a relationship. Pay close attention to what other couples are doing right and ask questions! The couple will likely be flattered and happy to share any tips.
- To identify with. As you leave your single life behind, it may take some time to come to terms with your new identity as “taken”. Seeing other couples who have already found their groove will help you accept the changes in your own life by seeing the positive outcome.
- To spend time with. No one wants to be a third wheel. At least that’s what all my single friends used to tell me. Having another couple to go out with eliminates any awkwardness that one might feel by being there “alone”.
- To compare notes with. Wondering if arguing over dirty socks on the floor is normal? It comes in handy to have another couple to turn to and ask those slightly embarrassing questions.
- To evolve with. Healthy couples continue to grow together. Having another couple in your life gives you further opportunity to grow as you balance both your marriage and your relationship with the couple. Think of it as a tree–sprouting multiple roots makes it more stable.
While it is still extremely important to keep those single friends who are mature and loyal, it is just as important to surround yourself with couples who will help your own relationship flourish and grow.