People would ask me, and I’d reply: “Well I have 11 bridesmaids, 11 groomsmen and then the maid of honor and best man!” I’d say this brightly, ignoring the dark looks many gave me.
The main thing to keep in mind when selecting your bridal party is: What do you want to get out of it? This will help guide your decisions. If you’re looking for something quiet and intimate…maybe leave Rowdy Rachel, you college buddy, off the list. If you want to just party and have a good time, a group of 4-5 would probably be ideal.
So, why did I choose 11 bridesmaids? It’s simple, I wanted to please. I saw this as an opportunity for all of my favorite people to get together and bond over one of the biggest events of my life. Needless to say, many arguments and tearful discussions later, none of it turned out the way that I planned. It wasn’t about bonding. It wasn’t about the beginning of family. Were they supportive? Yes! They throw me an awesome bridal shower? Heck yes!
But what I had wanted to most was that reaffirmation that the effort I had made to make them all a part of my life would be reciprocated.
So, again, ask yourself what you expect to get from the experience and then plan accordingly. And for the most part, stay away from large bridal parties–just do it. But the truth is the key is the intention not the size. If everyone can agree to come together to make the bride’s vision a reality then you’ll have a very happy friend.